“As humans we have a natural need to reach out and open - and that requires us to be vulnerable, to open our heart”
As we grow from infant to adulthood, we develop ways to protect ourselves against our inevitable negative experiences. The protection we take on manifests long term as chronic tension, which can end up creating chronic pains, intractable body symptoms, or fragile emotional health.
When we release the chronic tensions held within our nervous system, , we release long trapped fear that has been unconsciously feeding us with a negative self-image. The release of these unconsciously held tensions and emotions leaves us feeling rejuvenated and alive, in touch, once again, with our innermost loving, radiant, joyful self. It allows us to rebuild a positive self-image for ourselves. It can restore our physical and mental health.
BBTRS© is a new and powerful approach to releasing stress and trauma held both physical and mental levels. Its origins are in Wilhelm Reich’s body oriented approach to therapy, Alexander Lowen’s Bioenergetics work and the work of Somatic therapist Peter Levine , author of “Waking the Tiger”.
Bioenergetics, on which much of this work is based, says that what is going on in your mind affects your body and also vice versa. It is based on the observation that the unconscious postures we take up to handle both the physical and emotional pain and stress of our lives inhibits our ability to fully express who we really are.
These characteristic postures create stiffness and distortion of the free movement of the body that results is known in bioenergetics as “armouring”. This armouring is a two way process. Fear and anxiety create postural tension. Once created, the tension creates a vicious circle that generates even more feelings of anxiety and stress, and so aggravating the original state. All this is happening wholly or largely outside our awareness.
BBSTRS works to release this tension in within the body. This creates a pathway for the life energy, generated within the pelvic region, to move freely throughout the body. This process is known as “dearmouring”
There are three approaches used to dissolving body armouring:
1. Deep breathing to build up energy (aliveness) in the body.
2. Direct manipulation chronically tense muscles to loosen them
3. Talking openly and honestly about the resistances or emotional restrictions that arise.
Mark Sutton is teaching at the festival. His work has many parallels to tantric practices and complements tantric teachings admirably. For more about BBTRS or Mark’s work visit www.markdsutton.com
Breathing in a conscious connected way, as outlined in the technique described by the Alchemy Of Breath, offers one of the fastest routes into deep healing I have ever had the pleasure to witness, experience and facilitate. The breath is truly our greatest healing resource - it's free, it's available to all regardless of health, location or circumstance, and by simply breathing with intention, we are able to access many hidden parts of our psyche to release trauma; trauma that may have otherwise remained inaccessible to us and caused us repeating problems through our lives. I am continually humbled by where I see this work take people, offering us freedom and health we may never have dreamt possible.
Most of us take in less that 20% of our lung capacity in the air that we breathe. We have become habitually accustomed to shallow breathing, to locking in trauma and to holding onto stress and anxiety in our system. The balance between our sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems is shot and as a result, cortisol and adrenaline often create a semi-permanent state of underlying anxiety in our mental, physical and emotional energy systems. When we start to breathe properly, amazing things happen!
My personal approach to breathwork is to view it as a form of deep 'soul retrieval', a reclaiming of lost parts of ourselves which inevitably brings back energy and vitality to our system. Breathing deeply and intentionally floods the body with oxygen and expels carbon dioxide, and from this place of invitation and elimination, we discover that old trauma and disease simply cannot survive in a truly well oxygenated body; thus our health and wellbeing begins to return.
Breathing with intention in this specific way creates a sense of spacious freedom when we are no longer holding these fight, flight and freeze responses in the body. A major part of my work, I find conscious breathwork offers an effective, sustainable and super powerful way out of old stories, creating a pathway of lightness, excitement and hope, literally breathing yourself into new potential. If you would like to know more about how this works, please click on the Alchemy Of Breath website. There are FREE online breathwork sessions offered every Sunday, twice a day, usually at 9.30am and 5pm, but please click here for details of all upcoming breathes.
If you would like to chat with me about my one-to-one or group breathwork sessions, what to expect and how it may feel, please call for a no obligation completely FREE! 20 minute consultation on +44 (0)7854 450482
“The most important things are the hardest to talk about…”
Sexual intimacy can be the glue that holds relationships together, it’s so precious to love and be loved in life. And to mean something to someone. Yet in a couple it can be easy to let intimacy slide.
And there are various valid reasons for it; kids, jobs, menopause, are the ones I hear the most often from men wondering why his wife has “closed down”
From women the story is different…the kids and jobs reasons remain, yet also thrown into the mix is not knowing what we want, resentments, unskilled touch, a lack of sexual confidence to initiate, the pressure to perform, an aversion to living up to fantasy. And finally boredom with the same old routine thing. So really, why bother turning up?
Correspondingly a little part of everyone’s soul shrinks with each turning away. The most important things are the hardest to talk about and once the gap in the bed widens, talking about sex becomes tricky if not impossible. Everyone finds this hard, even new lovers. Intimacy is at the heart of the matter and a longing for something we might have a sense of yet rarely experienced.
Yet when we are in an intimate loving relationship, we know life is happier. And we’re more creative when we’re sexually and emotionally satisfied and empowered. We’re softer when we have both a nurturing and erotic expression of love.
Having a witness to our lives is beautiful and without it we can be lonely or drink a little too much wine or get overly critical and begin blaming, believing there are no good or conscious men out there. I was once told you get the relationship at the level of enlightenment you’re at. So if you’re complaining or trying to change another, it could be time to look at ourselves. I don’t say this to make anyone wrong. Heaven knows I spent many years trying to change everyone else. Unsuccessfully of course.